I support my husband. He is a musician and that takes him away from home on a fairly regular basis. In addition to his 40+ hour a week day job, he is often gone 2 or 3 nights a week with band related things. He is incredibly talented, and that isn't just a proud wife talking. Music is in his blood, he needs it to survive. Music was his first love, it came along way before I did and it's not going anywhere, nor would I want it to. Being a lover of music myself, although lacking the talent to create it, I feel like I can safely say that I understand his passion for it. All that being said, it's still not easy to deal with.
Nearly every weekend, I kiss my husband goodbye and watch him leave to go perform. He stands on a stage for 3 or 4 hours with 4 other incredibly talented men and entertains people. He makes me SO proud, so it's really hard for me to say that a lot of times I hate it. It's not the music that I hate, or even him being gone so much, although that does suck. What makes me uncomfortable is some of the people that are there for the show. Yes people, I'm talking about the women. I want to state clearly for the record that I trust my husband 100%. This is not about jealousy on my part or worrying that my husband will cheat. This is about respect. There are always women that come to shows that somehow think that these men are onstage for them. Not for their entertainment, but for THEM. These men get onstage and perform. From my experience it's about 95% music and 5% acting. Unfortunately, some of these women get a few drinks in them and suddenly think that jumping onstage and grinding on other women’s husbands is acceptable. Never mind the tens of thousands of dollars of equipment and instruments that they are stumbling around. They forget that although these guys are there to entertain them with music, they are not their property to touch, dance on, etc.
I have been going to see local bands for a long time, a lot longer than I've known my husband, and I have NEVER acted inappropriately with any member of any band, much less a married one. I like to go out, have a couple drinks, dance, and have a good time, and I can accomplish all these things without making a fool of myself or being disrespectful to other peoples spouses. Why can't everyone? Why is it that these women can't stop and think about the fact that these men are taken, or even the sacrifices that spouses of musicians make, and respect that. Why do lines have to be crossed? The truth of the matter is, it ruins OUR fun to have to watch that behavior, or worse yet, have to think about what might be going on when we aren't able to make a show because we are at home raising these men’s children, even if we are 100% confident that our spouses won't stray.
I guess the point of all my rambling is simple. Ladies, come to their shows, have a good time, but please respect the musicians and their private lives as you would want us to respect yours, but most of all, show some respect for yourself and find yourself a good man that YOU can be proud of. Ours are taken.
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